The futility of asking who I am

The futility of asking who I am, like it can be answered or can be discovered. If you're a Being, how could you be something was? Question of identity can't be answered while the person is living since the answer is in the actions, it's constantly emerging, constantly unfolding.

We can handle the reality as we're already enduring it but we can't reach it. We only reflect and we can only reflect through other people. They're the mirrors. This might be the reason behind the saying "you're the average of 3-5 closest people around you". You reflect yourself on these people and the reflection is polluted. It's important to choose people around you to control the pollution as the pollution is inevitable. But if people around you are perfectly aligned with you there won't be any perturbation and perturbation is a prerequisite to learning.

In a perfectly aligned community there will be growth as community nurtures its people but there won't be any evolution. There's an opponent processing between evolving vs growing. Habitat is for growing and arena is for evolving. Arena evolves because there're opponents there and opponents force you to evolve. Whatever and whoever you fight long enough is what you'll eventually turn into as the law of enantiodromia suggests.